Archive for October, 2011

Common F*cking Courtesy

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I’m about to go off on a tangent. And I’ll probably swear some more. If you don’t like either of those things you should probably move along.

I was in a hurry this morning. I needed to drop the little guy off at school in order to meet the individual who was going to be shadowing me all day. (Those of you in sales know what a pain in the ass it is when this happens; it can throw your day just slightly off and add a degree of stress.) Of course, there is a line to drop off even though it is early. There is an entire driveway in front of the school in the shape of a semi-circle but do you think people pull all the way forward to drop their kids off? Hell no!! They pull in ten damn feet and park. Far be it from little Dick or Jane to walk an extra five f*cking feet to the door.

So there is a line where there doesn’t need to be a line, along with the most inconsiderate bitch who has decided she can’t wait in this line and has thrown her car in part with her entire backside still in the street.
I mean, who cares if the rest of Houston has to wait on her lazy ass. She has literally put her car in park, has the trunk open and is unloading what looks like their entire house. By this time the line is moving but the dipshit at the front of the line won’t turn because lazy bitch has her car in park, half in the street. Finally the pickup in front of me pulls around and turns. I breathe a sigh of relief that he has the brains to pull through the drive. Oops! Spoke too soon. This jackass pulls between two lines of parked cars in the driveway and stops his car right in front of door to the school, parking at a perfect angle so that NO ONE can get by. I am now in awe. My mouth is literally hanging open. I finally get by and do the courteous thing: I PULL ALL THE WAY FORWARD to the end of the drive. And guess what? My little guy had no issue with running to the door. He’s a kid. He loves to run and walk.

Society’s egomania is everywhere. I don’t dare turn on my blinker early in traffic. People don’t slow down to let you in, they speed up to cut you off. When I fill up my car at Costco they post a sign “Please pull forward.” Why do they need to post this? Isn’t that just common sense? The other day at a Shell station I pulled up to the pump at the exact same time as another man. I smiled at him thinking he would wave me through. He had the bigger car and he just kept easing his huge Suburban closer and closer to my car. Seriously?? As I pulled around to the other side of the station it happened again. This time the gentleman rolled down his window to tell me, “You go ahead, ma’am.” Thankfully chivalry isn’t completely dead.

What has happened to our society? When did people become so narcissistic and rude? When did they stop caring about anyone except themselves? Many people have written articles and books saying that we are in a “Narcissism Epidemic” and I believe them. A recent article commented:

Whether through fate, circumstances or moral imperative, our culture kept hubris in check. Now, we encourage it. Pastors preach of a Jesus that wants us to be rich. The famously egocentric wide receiver Terrell Owens declares at a press conference that being labeled selfish is fine with him. Donald Trump names everything he owns after himself and calls his detractors “losers.” We live in a world where everyone can be a star—if only on YouTube. The general sense among students on that New Haven campus is that with the world being such a competitive, cutthroat place, they have to be narcissists. Well, you may need a supersize ego to win “America’s Next Top Model” or to justify your multimillion dollar bonus. But last I checked, most of our lives don’t require all that attitude. Treating the whole world as if it works for you doesn’t suggest you’re special, it means you’re an ass. As an antidote to a skyrocketing self-worth, [the author] recommends humility, evaluating yourself more accurately, mindfulness and putting others first. Such values may seem quaint, maybe even self-defeating, to those of us who think we’re special, but trust me: it gets easier with practice.

Please don’t be an ass. Evaluate yourself and your actions, be mindful, and put others first.

Still Rockin’ It
Scarlet Mom

The Class of 1986

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I really enjoyed socializing with the class of 1986 in October of 2011. Much more than I did back in 1986. Back when I attended Westlake it was a very unique experience. Unique enough that my classmate John Spong wrote an article, Embarrassment of Riches, which was published in Texas Monthly back in 2005.

Not everyone in the school was wealthy or a gifted jock but it quickly became apparent who was. Cliques were quite ubiquitous in high school but at Westlake, they defined you and would either make you or break you. Hyline, cheerleaders and the beautiful and rich were “the popular people.” The “jocks” were, of course, the jocks. We had “the freaks” out at the smoking section and then “the geeks.” As John Spong so eloquently put it:

“Clothes mattered in a way that was altogether new. I’d always known, of course, what an alligator was, and I had a vague idea of what a polo player looked like. But I had no hint of how much it mattered to have one or the other stitched on your shirt or that there was pecking order to the worth of those labels: Izod alligator, good; Polo pony and mallet swinger, better; JCPenny fox, you can’t sit at our table today.”

Our parking lot was full of Corvettes, Porches, 280ZXs, BMWs, and a few Mercedes Benz. No one was embarrassed of their wealth. On the contrary, they flaunted it.

“There was no reason to be ashamed of (some of) our parents’ wealth, but there were other displays that should have been rethought. The homecoming football game during my senior year was played against Del Valle, an area where the primary industries were an Air Force base and a prison…. But the worst insult came when the visitors had to watch our homecoming queen nominees parade around the track at halftime in Mercedes convertibles.”

Back then we didn’t think and we didn’t care. But at my reunion last week I realized that this behavior many of us flaunted has disappeared. I know in my own life it is long gone. What I was so happy to see is that the cliques are gone and friendships are being extended and forged across new lines. Many that grew up in very privileged homes have chosen less profitable careers in order to help others. Others have become very successful yet remain very down to earth. And I was happy to see the many that have chosen to forgo their careers and stay home and be moms…and I just love seeing the joy in their eyes when they talk about how much they love this chosen career (which is the most difficult job in the world).

Some of my friendships are old (I’ve known my friend Lynn since we were 10) and others are newer. I treasure every single friendship that I have with these people. They are genuine, giving, and loving people. I’m proud of us all for overcoming the stigma and adolescent behaviors and becoming loving and accepting friends.

Still Rockin’ It
Scarlet Mom

The Holidays are Coming…For Your Waistline

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It starts with Halloween and doesn’t stop until New Year’s Eve. What is it? The evil onslaught of food. Holy crap!! This year the Christmas decorations were up in August. Let me tell you something marketing geniuses of Madison Avenue, here in Texas this summer it was 108 degrees in August. We were literally just trying to survive the summer; we really didn’t want to look at all those freaking decorations when it was so hot outside that we could barely make it to our cars without having a heat stroke. And now we’re all just trying to keep from gaining the customary holiday pounds. Happy freakin’ holidays.

Despite the common beliefs, most people only gain about 1-2 pounds during the holidays. Don’t eat your fruitcake just yet. A study from the National Institutes of Health states:

“Although an average holiday weight gain of less than a pound may seem unimportant, that weight was not lost over the remainder of the year….”

“This is a ‘good news/bad news’ story,” said Dr. Yanovski. “The good news is that people don’t gain as much weight as we thought during the holidays. The bad news is that weight gained over the winter holidays isn’t lost during the rest of the year.”

The knowledge that people actually accumulate a large proportion of their yearly weight gain over the winter holiday season, the researchers added, may prove useful in treating overweight and obesity.

“The cumulative effects of yearly weight gain during the fall and winter are likely to contribute to the substantial increase in body weight that frequently occurs during adulthood,” the researchers wrote. “Promotion of weight stability during the fall and winter months may prove useful as a strategy to prevent age-related weight gain in the United States.”

Think that two pounds isn’t so bad? If you gain 2 pounds over the holidays and 2 pounds during the rest of the year, that’s 20 pounds in just 5 years. That’s some serious weight gain!! So how can you avoid that cumulative weight gain? Here are some tips.

First, here is my blog You Are What You Eat to introduce you to making smarter food choices.

Second, here is last year’s blog on How To Avoid the Holiday Weight Gain. And here are some additional tips for avoiding that holiday weight gain, compliments of The Cleveland Clinic:

1. Get moving
One of the most effective ways to maintain or lose body weight is to engage in regular, sustained aerobic activity (*).To burn off those extra calories, kick up your exercise. If you exercise for 30 minutes a day, increase it to 45 minutes. If you exercise three times a week, move it up to five times a week.

2. Aim for seven-a-day
Making sure you eat seven or more servings of fruits and vegetables each day is a great way to help fill-up your stomach but not your calorie level. When compared to other snack foods like chips, crackers and cookies, gram for gram, fruits and vegetables contain fewer calories and tons more nutrients. What’s more – the fiber in fruits and vegetables fill you up faster than traditional snack foods. Pack your refrigerator with bags of cut-up vegetables and whole or cut-up fruits. Grab a bag while on the go or at work. Make a pact with yourself that you’ll eat your five-a-day before you snack on any cookies or other holiday treats. You’re sure to take in fewer calories overall.

3. Control the risk for temptation
Controlling even the slightest chance of coming in contact with “tempting” foods is one way to effectively reduce your intake. While you won’t be able to control all situations, focus on the many ones you can. For example, do you keep candy or cookies at your desk or workspace? Do you frequent the dining room table or pantry where you store all your holiday goodies? Make a mental note of tempting places and try to control them. For example, make a pact with co-workers that goodies will be kept solely in the break room, not at the front desk or in various offices. Mentally plan out how you will avoid tempting situations. If you can’t avoid them entirely, see number 4.

4. Limit to one-a-day
While you can’t control every situation, you can control how much food goes into your mouth. If you are constantly bombarded with holiday parties and displays of desserts or candies you can still effectively help prevent overeating and weight gain. One way is the one-a-day method. Allow yourself one small serving of a cookie or piece of candy each day during the holiday season. Remember that you may have to compensate for it later in the day by reducing your total caloric intake or by burning a few extra calories while exercising. If you aren’t confronted with holiday foods that day, just skip your one-a-day – but don’t compensate and double-up on your serving the next day.

5. Always plan ahead – Never go to a party hungry
Before you go to a holiday party, eat a healthy snack such as a serving of your favorite fruit, fat-free yogurt or a low-fat, whole grain granola bar. When you arrive at the party, you won’t be craving hors d’oeuvres.

“If you’re going to a potluck dinner, bring a healthy dish to share such as a salad, veggie or fruit tray, or a low-fat pudding, Jell-O or fruit dessert,” says Zumpano. “That way, you’ll know you have at least one healthy item on the table spread.”

6. Be in charge of your party choices:
Small plate, please
Be wise when choosing appetizers – a small portion of some appetizers may help you from overeating at dinner.
“Pick up a small plate, and stick with vegetables, but limit or avoid the creamy dips,” advises Zumpano. “Restrict your intake of butter crackers, chips, cheese and meats. If you must have a deep-fried appetizer, eat only one small serving. Never go back for seconds. For dinner, fill half of your plate with salad and vegetables, one quarter with meat, and the final quarter with starch,” Zumpano says.
Avoid the sauce
Avoid sauces made from cream, half-and-half or meat drippings. For salads, use oil and vinegar, vinaigrette or low-fat dressings. Broth -based or vegetable sauces are fine.
What about desserts?
The best low-calorie choices are fruit, Jell-O, pudding, an unfrosted mini muffin, shortbread cookies, ginger snaps or angel food cake. If you must have a dessert with frosting, butter cream, cream cheese, or chocolate chips, limit yourself to one small cookie or one thin slice of cake.
Watch the drinks
“Besides restricting your alcohol to one or two servings, you also need to restrict the type of alcohol,” says Zumpano. “For example, instead of high-fat eggnog, have a light beer or wine. After that, stick with calorie-free drinks such as water, unsweetened ice tea, hot tea or coffee.”

7. Say No Politely

Many times you feel forced to eat foods because people keep putting it in front of you. Learn to say no politely, such as “No thank you, I’ve had enough. Everything was delicious”, or “I couldn’t eat another bite. Everything tasted wonderful”. You’ll find saying no isn’t so hard to do after all.

8. Focus on socializing
Don’t stand around the food table when you are at a party – focus your energies on making conversation with others instead of focusing on foods. Conversation is calorie-free.

Be smart and remember, NOTHING TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS.

Still Rockin’ It
Scarlet Mom

Grown Men Don’t “LOL”

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Are you a grown man over the age of 30? Do you pepper LOL your paragraphs LOL with “LOL?” Annoying LOL, isn’t it? LOL. It really makes it difficult to read, too. And, as my friend Heather says, are we really laughing out loud?

Seriously men, unless you are gay (I love gay men, no offense intended) or a 15-year-old girl, you should not be using “LOL” anywhere in anything that you write. Not in a text, not in a paragraph, not to a girlfriend, not to look cute. And if you LOL want to ever LOL get laid LOL or married LOL to a half-way intelligent LOL woman in this lifetime LOL, stop using “LOL.” It’s f*cking annoying!!

Guess what? If it’s really funny, we will laugh. If you’re being sarcastic and want to make sure the person doesn’t get offended say “haha.” If you want to respond to someone who said something funny say, “haha.” If it’s really funny, “hahaha” or even “bahaha.” Here’s what is not acceptable: “bahahahahahahahahahahaha.” It better be really mother f*cking funny and you better only do that once a year.

Use this new important piece of information along with your Facebook Etiquette and your proper spelling because my patience is wearing thin.

Still Rockin’ It
Scarlet Mom

My New Soulmates…Bitches in the Burbs

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OMFG I love these bitches. They make me laugh and I think we were separated at birth. Why do I think this? Bitches in the Burbs did a guest blog for All Fooked Up and this is what they wrote. It’s f*cking genius.

Fuck off if:

* You don’t put your cart away after you put your sh*t in your car. How f*cking lazy do you have to be if you can’t walk three parking spaces, push your cart inside the stall, and be on your way. When I try to pull into a parking spot and can’t, because some lazy *sshole who probably needs the exercise left their cart sitting there, I want to stab someone. Put. Your. Cart. Away.
* You are a size 0 and constantly complain about how fat you are. Newsflash, “Annie,” nobody wants to hear an overweight person complain, so to hear you do it is like nails on a chalkboard. I would love to hold you down and shove cheeseburger after cheeseburger down your throat and watch you weigh yourself the next morning. Yes. That would make me very happy.
* Free WiFi gets you so excited, you feel the need to occupy an entire table meant for a large group for yourself and your lovely companion, the laptop. Yes, I know that free WiFi can cause some people to orgasm profusely, but come on, go take a small table in the back. I’ve got kids who need to eat you mothaf*cka!!!!!
* You don’t laugh at Modern Family, Curb Your Enthusiasm, and It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Seriously, you need to get your head examined. These shows are funny as sh*t. You obviously have no sense of humor. At all.
* You look at me the wrong way. Really, you don’t want to go there. I’m the queen of b*tchy looks, and can take you down in 2 seconds flat. Bottom line.
* You have a swear jar. OMFG. Who does this? If you do, you suck donkey balls. You would also be rich if you lived in my house!
* I’m in line with bread and milk, you’ve got a weeks worth of groceries, and you don’t let me go in front of you. Who the f*ck raised you, you selfish SOB???
* You ask me a question, I begin to respond, and you f*cking interrupt me with a story about yourself. Ummm…if I wanted to know about you, I would have been the one asking in the first place. AND if you don’t give a crap about what I have to say, don’t ask? JFC!
* You don’t let your kids watch anything over G rated movies and they’re 12. Do you want your kids to get the sh*t kicked outta them?
* You have no balls. Seriously. If you have something to say to someone, say it to their face. It WILL get back to them eventually. I can promise you that. PROMISE. Own what you say, and have the facts to support it. If you don’t, keep your f*cking mouth shut.
* You mess with my kids. Don’t even go there. You don’t wanna see what I turn into. They are my world. I would do ANYTHING for them. Don’t test me, you won’t like the results.

I love you, bitches!!

Still Rockin’ It!!
Scarlet Mom

Are You Still Checking Out My Skin?

Photo on 2011-10-05 at 15.07 #4

This is a follow-up post to Oh Baby Check Out Her Skin. I still stand behind everything I wrote and every product I wrote about but I have changed my regimen slightly. Why? Because I’m getting older (aren’t we all?) and as you age so does your skin.

You should re-evaluate your skin regimen annually, even sooner if you have a life altering event like having a baby, a high stress event like a divorce, or move somewhere that has a completely new climate. All of these things effect either your body and the external elements around you. As always, you should always visit a board-certified dermatologist, especially if you have problem skin or are just starting to really take care of your skin. A good microdermabrasion and mini chemical peel can get your skin started on the right track to looking its best. These procedures remove any dead skin as well as the top layer of living skin so that a new, healthy layer regenerates in its place. This is what Retin-A does and why people who use it regularly have such youthful skin; it is constantly sloughing off the top layer of skin and regenerating a new one. It’s why you must purchase Retin-A from a physician and why I strongly recommend only receiving chemical peels from a dermatologist or plastic surgeon’s office.

Also take note as to whether or not your doctor has grown bored with you. Does he or she rush through your appointment? Does he brush off your questions? Does he discuss the latest treatments with you? Also, does the office offer all the newest services that you want and need? Do they have products in stock or are they always running out? Do they try to sell you too hard on things you don’t need? Don’t be afraid to take charge (to a point; don’t insist on procedures you don’t need) and don’t be afraid to insist on time with your physician. Remember, this is YOUR time; you are paying for it. Never be afraid to leave your doctor and find a new one. The doctor/patient relationship is important and one with which you should feel comfortable.

Now, here is my new skin care routine:

I have dropped the Glycolic portion. As you age you lose natural oils out of your skin. Although the glycolic produced a synergistic effect, it was drying out my skin.

Retin-A: I use Refissa 0.05%. It contains a light mineral oil so it is very emollient. I used this every night. (When starting a Retin-A regimen, you will start every two nights and gradually build up.) Don’t forget to rub some on your hands!! They never lie when it comes to age.

Bleaching cream: I apply a bleaching cream sparingly to my face prior to the Retin-A. It is a prescription strength, 4% hydroquinone. (Hormones as well as sun exposure can cause dark splotches in the skin. This helps keep them at bay. If you currently have them, you can have them frozen off or slowly bleach them.)

Exfoliate: I use Dr. Michelle Copeland microdermabrasion formula to scrub my face every other day. As I stated above, Retin-A causes your skin to regenerate so you will need to exfoliate the dead skin frequently but gently.

Sunblock: Retin-A makes your skin very sensitive to sunlight. I apply Neutrogena’s UltraSheer SPF55 daily as my moisturizer.

Neck Moisturizer: Age is a bitch and my neck needs extra moisturizing. Day and night I apply SkinMedica Dermal Repair Cream.

Eyes: Day and night I apply SkinMedica TNS Eye Repair.

Vitamin C: I have added SkinMedica Vitamin C Plus E Complex to my regimen. I apply this in the morning only under my sunscreen. I absolutely love it!! I started using it when I read some research including this:

Vitamin C is an antioxidant that slows the rate of free-radical damage — free radicals are unstable molecules that damage collagen and cause skin dryness, fine lines and wrinkles. New research shows that ascorbic acid 2-phosphate, a derivative of vitamin C, not only neutralizes free radicals, but also reverses DNA damage [source: University of Leicester].

Wash: I wash my face every night with SkinMedica Facial Cleanser. Mornings I just splash with warm water. For my eyes I use Kiehl’s Supremely Gentle Eye Make-up Remover.

Body: Nothing but Kiehl’s. I love their Creme de Corps body lotion and adore how soft it makes my skin. I have gotten many compliments.

Are you thinking, “What a pain in the ass?” “Does she really do this every day?” The answer is, “Yes. Every single day.” Just like every other woman on this planet I have body and image issues. But the one thing I do know is that I have great skin. I have worked at it for many years and I love it when I get stopped in airports or on the street and complimented and asked what my secret is. I love that men notice it and compliment me. Bottom line…it’s worth every second.

Still Rockin’ It
Scarlet Mom

PS The photo at the very top with Harry was taken 10/2011 with Photo Booth and was not retouched in any way.

PPS I should add that I eat healthy, don’t smoke, and drink plenty of water. :)