Shrugging Away the Blues

On Friday, April 13th, I was once again delivered a professional blow: As of May 31st I don’t have a job. After riding high the past year, winning President’s Club and ranking number one in the nation, the Universe decided that things were going a little too well and it was time to take me down a notch. I’ve been working contract for this pharmaceutical company and the contract was cancelled early. There’s a good chance I’ll have a permanent position but I won’t know for a few more weeks. Needless to say, I’m feeling a bit blue today.

While depression is a very real disease, I realize that I am just reeling from the effects of losing my job. It’s normal to feel blue in a situation like this but what is important is to not wallow in it. My Buddhist studies have taught me to acknowledge my feelings without judgement, feel them, then allow them to leave. Attachment and clinging, especially to such negative emotions, can only cause me more suffering.

It is also important for me to continue to eat healthy and exercise. Although I didn’t feel like it, I headed out to yoga this morning. Not only did the workout make me feel exponentially better but interacting with friends and chatting before and after class was very refreshing. This past weekend I did, of course, indulge with my little guy in a bowl of ice cream. It was a special treat to share it together but that was it. Indulgence should stop there; it doesn’t have to last the entire weekend and become a feeding frenzy. Keeping a healthy mind and body throughout this “grieving” process is important in order to help me shrug off those blues.

There’s one more thing I wanted to share with you from something I read this morning. It’s from an article about reaching your goals in yoga but it so easily translates into our everyday life.

Besides being excited to finally be able to get into this pose that had eluded my arm balance practice for so long, it taught me an invaluable lesson. There are so many things that seem impossible and out of reach in life, and way too many people give up on their goals prematurely because of lack of persistence. If there is something you want to achieve, keep at it with all of your heart. Get up early to work on it and stay late to perfect it. Don’t allow setbacks to discourage you, and definitely don’t let not getting it on your first try make it be your last attempt.

If you want something bad enough and do something to work closer towards your goal every day, you will get there. No matter what that something is – making your favorite hobby your career, becoming a millionaire, running a marathon, perfecting a hairstyle, or holding a handstand – like drips of water eventually making a hole in a rock, persistence and little improvements every day will eventually get you there.

Make sure to enjoy the journey, because once you get to the destination there is nowhere else to go. Savor the moment and realize that the sweetness of success is still ahead, and maybe a lot closer than you think. Have a sense of humor and laugh at yourself, and take pride in your continued efforts. I think it is very rare that people succeed at something big on their first try – instead, they keep going despite any odds that are stacked against them.

I know this is my journey and everything that it has to offer is a lesson in life that must be enjoyed. I find it curious that my last day of employment is right around the time that my book will be published. I love how the Universe works; so mysterious and beautiful in every way.

Scarlet Mom

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I am a single mom & author. I write about dating, sexuality, health, parenting, and trying to have it all. My new book, "Evolve or Die Single," is a must-read for single men & even has some sizzling tips for couples.

One Reply to Shrugging Away the Blues

  1. wroman says:

    Your attitude towards adversity and your approach to difficulties continues to be an inspiration. This post really spoke to me and some struggles of my own. Thanks for always being so open, whether in person or through your blog!

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