Kristen & Robert: Here’s my advice

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Kristen Stewart, Rupert Sanders, and Robert Pattinson: WTF? Who has a torrid affair then tweets apologies to the world? Grow up little children.

According to People.com, Robert “…is heartbroken and angry, and sources tell the magazine that he’s been drinking and relying on friends to deal with the pain.” In addition, according to People, Robert has been cheating since the beginning. Seriously folks, didn’t you order my book? It’s on Amazon.

If they had read my book here is some of the advice they would have found:

There is never any excuse for cheating. Cheating is unacceptable in
every situation. If you have grown weary of your relationship then
talk to your partner. If you two cannot come to a mutually agreeable
solution then end it. Many couples cheat because they are
bored and want some excitement. Cheating is not the solution.
More times than not, you will get caught and feelings are devastated.
It’s not worth it.

If you truly love your partner try talking to him or her about
your boredom and come up with ways to spice things up together.
No one comes out a winner when one of you cheats. Never. When
a person is cheated on, those feelings of betrayal can last years
or, in many cases, a lifetime. Remember that you are dealing with
someone’s life when you decide to cheat. Do you really want that
guilt on your shoulders?

In Rupert’s case, he is married with two children and is now estranged from his wife. Let me tell you something about divorce:

No matter how you look at it, divorce is a tragedy. It is the unraveling
of a family. While we are dating, caught up in lust and swelling
emotions, then standing before a judge or preacher, not one of us
hopes or plans for divorce. We think and hope with all our might
that we will be the exception. More than 50% of the time we are
wrong. It is heartbreaking.

When you cheat or act like a complete idiot, you expedite the unraveling of your marriage. Don’t do it.

And what about Robert’s way of dealing with his breakup?

In order to heal, you must use the tools at your disposal: your
friends, your family, your counselor, and your clergy. Whatever is
there for you, lean on it and lean on them. In this difficult time
you will truly learn who your real friends are.

Now that you’re single again and you are embarking upon
a new journey of you, it is time to work on becoming self-aware.
Learn to recognize any unhealthy habits that are developing. Are
you staying abnormally busy? When you do unwind, do you always
have a drink in your hand? Are you uncharacteristically quick to
anger? Do friends walk on eggshells around you? When things start
to go wrong, do you blame everyone but yourself? Are you always
doom and gloom or woe is me? Take some time to look within and
do some self-examination. Figure out what’s going on inside your
heart and mind and commit to taking the steps to healing them.

And when it comes to keeping that marriage or relationship exciting I have some great tips for that, too…but you’ll have to buy the book to find out what those are. :)

Still Rockin’ It
Scarlet Mom

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About the author
I am a single mom & author. I write about dating, sexuality, health, parenting, and trying to have it all. My new book, "Evolve or Die Single," is a must-read for single men & women...it even has some sizzling tips for couples.

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