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30 Days to Finding Your Inner MILF, Confidence, & Beauty. #4 Reconnect With Family

By Scarlet Mom | October 22, 2010 | 30 Days to a New You, Being a Mom IS Sexy, Spicing Up Date Night | 1 Comment

#4 Reconnect With Family

That’s right. It’s time to talk to those people that drive us to drink. It can be your partner, your spouse, your children, or your siblings. Perhaps even your parents. But turn off your cell phone, your iPad, your computer, your iPod, the TV, and any gadget that will distract you. Commit to spending 30 minutes or even one hour of uninterrupted time with that loved one. Plan an outing, go out to dinner, cook dinner together. Whatever it is, do it together. Nothing screams hot, sexy MILF like being a great mom, wife, or partner.

Parenting Magazine gives these three general tips for creating and spending time with your children:

Rethink your life: one day each week, squeeze your schedule into your family life, rather than your family into your schedule. Find things that you can do together as a family. Make sure that you give each child individualized attention. Talk to your child; find out how he’s doing. Make yourself responsible for having a finger on his pulse. Be accessible, even when you’re busy.

Spending time doesn’t mean you have to do anything special. All it means is that you give your interest and attention. If you’re overwhelmed with chores, ask your kids to help. There’s something about engaging with others in activities that invites conversation and connection. Above all, check yourself before you use candy, money, toys or trips to make up for being unavailable. Remind yourself that this is often a clever defense to assuage a sense of guilt.

Unscheduled time–time spent spontaneously and given freely— is a great healer of relationship. Learn to make time for the people in your life. Have days or at least moments when you freely give your time. Don’t worry that the laundry isn’t folded or that you have a million things to do. Put all that aside and give your children time. By doing so, you’ll be giving them the most valuable thing you own.

If it’s your partner or spouse you’re reconnecting and spending time with, look back on my prior blogs and plan a date night. It can be a simple movie night at home or a sexy rendez-vous with the two of you meeting at a hotel bar then spending the night with breakfast brought to you in bed.

Whatever you do and whomever you choose to spend time with, the key is to spend quality time with them. Turn off the TV, the computer, the news; turn off life in general and lose yourself in that person. I can tell you that I have had one hell of a week. When I get to my man’s place tonight and he has my vodka and red bull waiting for me, I will completely lose myself in him and in the moment. And I can assure you that the only thing that will be turned on is us.

Still Rockin’ It.
Scarlet Mom

What are you going to be for Halloween?

By Scarlet Mom | October 8, 2010 | Just For Fun, Spicing Up Date Night | Comments Off

Halloween. Time to dress up the kiddos and take them door-to-door to collect candy. Throw on those old sweat pants, gorge on candy and hand the rest out at the door to all those little gremlins that show up screaming “trick or treat” on your door step. Another Halloween; another boring night.

But does it really have to be like this? If you ask Scarlet Mom, the answer is “hell no.” My man and I have been planning Halloween weekend for a month now and not for our respective kids. This is date weekend gone wild. The second I asked my brother if he could watch my little guy he responded, “It’s Halloween weekend!” This is not a kid’s holiday. This is adult fun. Apparently the most difficult task is finding a babysitter.

The best part of Halloween this year is that is falls on a Sunday night. That means, if you’re like me, you can take the entire weekend to party adult style, go to costume bashes, drink to your heart’s content, and still be a good parent and drag your hungover ass out trick-or-treating Sunday night. I think that deserves a parenting award.

This is a great opportunity for you and your partner to collaborate together on costumes and what parties to attend. A pimp and a whore? Scarlet and Rhett? Catwoman and Batman? Sexy policewoman and her prisoner? Or something completely off the wall. Plan it together, shop it together. Or you can even dress up while he’s a work. Be in costume when he gets home and act out the whole fantasy. Trust me, it’s hot. What a great way to start your night. Happy Halloween!!

Still Rockin’ It.
Scarlet Mom

Who has more fun? Blondes, Brunettes, or Red-heads??

By Scarlet Mom | September 28, 2010 | Being a Mom IS Sexy, Spicing Up Date Night, Style | Comments Off

I’m constantly amazed by the women I see in my daily life through work, in the airport, picking up the little guy from school. Some of these women look amazing and I think, “Wow. Good for you.” Others I think, “What are you thinking??” Or rather, is it that they are not thinking…or not looking? Why does it take a divorced woman to take notice of herself in the mirror? I remember when I got married my then mother-in-law gave me this gem of advice: “Now that you’re married you don’t have to worry about your appearance anymore.” Really??? My advice is the opposite. Now that you’re married you have to worry even more about your appearance. Now that you’re married you have to worry EVEN MORE about your appearance. This goes for both of you. You are now sleeping only with each other, spending gobs and gobs of time with each other, and spending endless naked time together. Make it enjoyable to stare endlessly at each other; to caress and explore each other’s bodies. When it’s time for date night, make your partner proud to be with you. Dress that hot, sexy body up and fix your hair (guys, too). And guys, you know you’re going to get some so break out that razor and play dress-up as well.

Speaking of hair, ladies, what have you done with yours lately? Did you know that your hair color changes over your lifetime due to hormones and diet? So the beautiful flowing locks that you had at 20 probably are not the same locks that you have at 40. Do you have gray showing through? If you have naturally dark hair a salt and pepper look probably looks good on you. But if you have anything lighter than “very dark” hair it only makes you look aged. The term “growing old gracefully” has changed to mean growing old with style and class. By not doing anything with your hair, cutting or coloring, you draw attention to negative aspects of yourself. By finding a great colorist and getting a fabulous cut, you can take years off your look in a matter of an hour or two. Have you ever seen Oprah do a show on makeovers and making people look ten years younger? The biggest change is coloring and cutting their hair. My stylist Leigh told me:

Anyone that has had lighter hair their whole life probably will just look aged if they choose to let their gray grow in. There are many services now to meet everyone’s gray coverage needs such as 100% opaque gray coverage or softly covered gray blending where up to 75% gray is covered. Store bought products really lie to you to sell products. If you put permanent hair color from root to end every time you are ruining the hair; it will cause the hair to over grab pigment or have extreme banding. LIKE OLD LADIES!

So which hair color has more fun? They all do…because they took the time to find a good colorist and a good stylist and are rockin’ their look. That’s the key. Read fashion magazines and work with your stylist to find something that suits you and works with your face and your hair. And hair color is fun. You can change it up, change it back, make it more intense, add highlights, have fun with it. Personally, I think red-heads have the most fun, but I’m biased. My favorite compliment from people is, “I love your hair color. Is it yours?” I always answer, “Damn straight it is. I paid for it.”

Still Rockin’ It
Scarlet Mom

(Leigh is located in Houston at Alan Murphy Salon. If you would like more information about her, please contact me.)

Spicing Up Football Season

By Scarlet Mom | September 12, 2010 | Spicing Up Date Night | 1 Comment

Are you ready for some football? Most women cringe at these words every fall. But have no fear, football season doesn’t have to mean five months of boring weekends without your mate. Here are my “why nots” about football season. They work for me and they definitely work for most men.

Why not throw a party, drink some cocktails, get involved and make it a rockin’ afternoon or night? Cocktails, especially vodka (in my opinion), always make things more fun. Inviting friends and having a party can make any day better. It can become a regular thing and you and your partner are now sharing something that was pulling you apart.

Why not share football together and make it a date night or date afternoon? A lot of women have found that they actually enjoy watching football together, whether college or the NFL. Have you checked out how hot those guys look?? You can also wear a sexy outfit and strut around, bending over in front of him (show him your best asset – tits or ass), and a few suggestive whispers after that half-time whistle will have him hitting that pause button before third quarter kicks in. (Have kids in the house? Talk and whisper amongst yourselves about what you WOULD do to each other then do it after the kids go to bed.)

Why not hit a sports bar to watch the game? The atmosphere is electric and exciting. Invite some friends or make new ones. Order some food, drink some beer, or vodka, let loose, and just enjoy each other. It’s time to stop cringing at football season, find common interest in each other, and spice it up…MILF style.

Still Rockin’ It.
Scarlet Mom

Sext Me Baby!!

By Scarlet Mom | September 5, 2010 | Spicing Up Date Night | 3 Comments

Foreplay doesn’t have to wait until you are in the same room. Date night or even a hot night of passion can start while you both are miles, even hundreds of miles, apart. Want to rev your partners engines before they even walk in the door? Start sexting them throughout the day. They’ll walk in the door horny as hell and ready to rip your clothes off…if you’re even wearing any. (A word of advice: use your personal phones. Do not use company issued phones.)

You can even take it up a notch. Sending tantalizing photos can always get your partner ready to race home, unable to wait one more second to feel your naked body next to his. It doesn’t have to be a full nude. The slope of your hip, a close up of your lips, your tongue licking your lips, your inner thigh, the outer curve of your breast. There are so many pieces of a woman’s body that are so beautiful. The key is to sext… To find the interaction that turns you both on and gets you both hot. “Sexting Tips” offers some great advice:

Have fun with it, be creative. Notice what words or pics make your partner particularly excited (everyone has a hot button) and use them. But, just like all things sexual, if you use sexting too frequently, it loses the titillating naughtiness of it. So be careful to make it infrequent enough that it continues to be a surprise. There is something very enticing to us about the forbidden. If you can send him something that he feels he has to hide or sneek to the bathroom to look at, you are playing a hot sex-game that will have him looking for ways to get back to you asap.

Sexting can even be foreplay when you’re in the same room together. On a recent vacation trip together, my supersexy man and I were at dinner in a crowded restaurant sitting across from each other. We were a bit tipsy and feeling very playful. There were people crammed in on either side of us so raising our voices and telling each other “I can’t wait to get you home and fuck your brains out” was really out of the question. I reached in my purse, grabbed my phone and sent him a text. He was pleasantly surprised when he realized I was texting him. We went back and forth right there in the restaurant telling each other the naughtiest things. It seemed even naughtier because we were sitting right there in the middle of a crowded restaurant, people everywhere, but no one knew our dirty little secret. By the time the cab dropped us off at our hotel we couldn’t get to our room fast enough or get our clothes off fast enough.

The next morning it was so much fun to lay in bed together and scroll through out texts, talking about the boring old couple on one side and the two girlfriends on the other side of us; neither had any idea that we were having phone sex right there in the middle of a crowded restaurant. It was so unbelievably hot!!

Still Rockin’ It.
Scarlet Mom

Holy Uncontrollable Yawns Batman, It’s Date Night! Part Deux

By Scarlet Mom | August 31, 2010 | Being a Mom IS Sexy, Spicing Up Date Night | 1 Comment

How could I forget number six? My thoughts were once again tied up and in the gutter in anticipation of MY number six. Number six is one of my favs because I’m a single mom whose ex lives out of state. That means I don’t get many weekends off like a lot of single parents or have one week on, one week off like the ex and I used to. Don’t get me wrong, I love my little guy like nothing on this planet. But give a bitch a break…I need some me time, some us time, some vodka time. So why didn’t I post yesterday? Why was I tied up for hours on end??

6. Why not…have an afternoon delight? Take off from work early (please do this responsibly, don’t get fired over it), meet each other at the house (no kiddos!!) or at a hotel, break out the lingerie (I chose a corset and FMPs), toys, foods, VODKA, you name it. You have the place to yourselves and if you can get away early enough and the kids have after school care, you can have hours and hours of fun. He pleases you, you please him. Dirty talk, pillow talk. It’s never ending and you’ll find yourself scouring your calendar to find availability for your next clandestine tryst!!

Still Rockin’ It.
Scarlett Mom